Phoning your date after the first meet

So you went on your first date and you may be thinking a number of different things! I want to see that person again, I hope I never see that person again, I might give it another try. Hopefully the first date went very well and you’re excited about meeting again, but before that you’ll want to make contact sooner rather than later.

So should you phone immediately after the date? No, well maybe. It depends on your situation, hear are some ground rules:

1. After the first date you don’t want to look desperate or overly keen so keep it cool, send your date a text message to see if they got back safely, but remember to keep things short and sweet at this stage.

2. Phone them, but as mentioned above not immediately, but definitely within 48 hours otherwise you may come across like you’re playing games to see who makes the next move. Be confident in yourself, pluck up the courage and make that call! On the call thank them for the first date and see if they’d like to go on another date, but again don’t seem overly keen to pin them down there and then but leave the option there.

3. As BT state “it’s good to talk” but please don’t go on for hours, although that may seem like a good sign, you can also come across as needy & possessive remember you have your own life and need to get on with it. So at least on the first few calls keep the conversation short but sweet. The dates are where you talk for hours

4. This may sound simple and obvious but ensure that you know what you are going to say and talk about before you pick up the phone and start calling. You don’t want to stutter on the call and have a conversation filled with “emmm”, even if you don’t say it, it will come across in how you speak.

5. Not had a reply to a voicemail or text? Don’t bombard them with messages! Being clingy is not an attractive trait neither is showing your insecurities. If you’ve left them a message get on with your life and wait for them patiently to get in touch, if you haven’t heard back after a week maybe try calling once more, if you don’t get a reply then take the hint. At this stage you need to remain calm, relaxed & casual.

6. Don’t make the mistake of becoming a text-a-holic, it’s very easy to get in to the habbit of texting eachother but beware an honest text message can be easily mis-read and derail your relationship. Try to have conversations not meaningless text chit chat.

Ultimately following a first date or even first couple of dates keep your feet on teh ground, don’t get carried away, if there’s a spark it will ignite but don’t try to force it by being clingy or pestering. Likewise if you are being pestered by someone you dated, don’t just ignore there messages, be open and honest and if you don’t want to take things forward let them know.